Fatherly
 
Jun 06, 2022
 
Every parenting rollercoaster flies off the rails on occasion. Like when toddlers decide to use diaper ointment as body paint, or your middle schooler slams their bedroom door hard enough to rattle all of the dishes in the kitchen. But responding in a volatile manner only upsets your kid and prevents them from engaging the cognitive processes that can help them learn from their mistakes and make better choices the next time around. So how can you stay calm when your kid absolutely confounds you with their behavior to the point of making you want to explode? Here's what to know.
 
PARENTING
 
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How to Keep Your Cool
 
01
 
Move Your Body
When you’re on the edge your body is holding on to a lot of energy. One way to release it? Yep, you guessed it: Move your body. Whether you bang out a few jumping jacks or take a brisk walk around the block, physically blowing off steam can keep you from emotionally exploding in the moment.

 
01
 
Crack a joke
It may seem counterintuitive to make light of a situation that’s causing you major stress, but psychotherapist Heather Kent says finding humor in a situation is a good way to help your brain shift gears. “Making a joke about what’s going on, depending on the situation, can be quite effective in lightening the mood of the room, which then makes it easier to focus on solutions.”
 
01
 
Debate Your Own Thoughts
If you find yourself on the edge of losing your cool, it’s important to check in with your thoughts. For example, if your kid has been acting up way more than usual, you may be entertaining thoughts that parenting is miserable, and you’ll never enjoy being with your kid. Or if your marriage has been tough lately, you may find yourself thinking your relationship is destined to end. Once you identify thoughts that are contributing to your stress, work on replacing them with more realistic ones.


You can read more about keeping your cool here.
 
 
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WELLNESS
 
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