If you’ve never thought much about setting boundaries with people in your life, it may seem selfish or even a little controlling. But Oakland-based marriage and family therapist Cameron, assures us that the opposite is true. Rather than a method of controlling someone’s behavior, he says boundaries — which can involve anything from physical space to emotional sharing to money and resources — are more like “communicated guidelines about how to relate with you or treat you.” In other words, they're an important aspect of taking active control of your mental health. But the question is how do you set and enforce them without pushing people away? There’s no one-size-fits-all method for boundary-setting, but the process will be much smoother if you adhere to a few principles. |
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