Want Confident Kids? Tie Their Work Ethic to Their Success
Parents should always compliment their kid’s work ethic, even if they don’t get an A on the math test or win the soccer game. When parents praise kids for the effort they’ve made, rather than the results of that effort, kids develop a healthy self-confidence that’s tied to their pride in being a hardworking person.
“Kids should be able to say: ‘I’m confident in these areas, because I’ve worked hard. I’ve practiced a lot. I really want to get good at this’ That’s a good thing,” says Dr. Roseanne Lesack, a certified child psychologist and director of the Unicorn Children’s Foundation Clinic at Nova Southeastern University in Florida. “If parents don’t stress this, kids might forget their worth if they fail at
Here are a few more tactics parents should use to build their child’s self-confidence
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Is Your Partner Struggling with Burnout? Don’t Take it Personally
There’s plenty you can do to help a partner get through feelings of burnout. Emotional and physical closeness among couples appears to buffer the effects of stress, noted the authors of a study published in 2019. Another study published in 1989 concluded that “alone time,” or “social withdrawal,” helped air traffic controllers with elevated stress levels return to normal.
You should certainly try to shoulder more of the workload. But admittedly, it can be difficult for one parent to take on more responsibility, and a partner who does take on more to support their partner might run the risk, over time, of burnout himself. Making it more difficult is that many of the symptoms of burnout — withdrawal, irritability, joylessness about the relationship or parenthood — tend to push partners away, even when they’re eager to help.
“Remember that cynicism can be an effect of burnout, therefore people that have burnout might not be very sensitive to your emotions,” says social psychologist Kinga Mnich, Ph.D. “It’s important not to take it personally and to be understanding.”
Here is some more advice on how to help a partner struggling with burnout.
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