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Two Things Couples Who Are Good at Sex Talk About Regularly
1. They Talk About Their Sex Life Regularly — At the Right Time
Healthy conversations about sex should be regular occurrences. It’s important that couples talk about everything from desires to more specific matters related to intimacy. And, as Carol Queen, PhD, and staff sexologist at Good Vibrations, emphasizes, when you have them is important. “It’s not just what you say, but when you say it,” she says.
In other words, you need to know when it’s right to discuss sexual matters. Because such conversations will only work well when both partners are in the right mindset.
“Good communication means making sure your partner has the emotional capacity to talk intimately,” she adds. “If they don’t, scheduling a later time can allow a couple to focus more positively.”
When having the discussion, attentiveness is essential. “Active listening lets couples check in with what they heard their partner say and make sure they’ve understood what was meant,” Queen stresses. “If something is misinterpreted, it can be caught right away, rather than leading to a destructive rabbit hole.”
2. They Put Sex on the Calendar — And Talk About the Upcoming Date
“When we come up with excuses like, ‘I’m too tired,’ or ‘I’m too busy’, our partner becomes less of a priority,” says Jackie Golob, a mental health counsellor and sex and relationship therapist at the Centre for Sexual Wellness, “It’s healthy to write down dates and plan times to have sex.”
Importantly, couples should sit down and discuss days on which your combined workload is usually lighter, and you anticipate enough free time to really engage. Then, put it on the calendar, set some notifications, and use the days leading up to the deed to heighten the anticipation.
“Healthy couples can tease each other leading up to the actual sex,” adds Golob. “They share what they’re looking forward to, and their minds can daydream and wander throughout the week.”
Here are some more topics that couples who are good at sex talk about regularly.
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