Plus, 3 Ways to Truly Build Trust in Your Marriage ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ ‌ 
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Kids absorb your stress. They hear you discussing grandma’s health and your latest COVID fears. They might not understand the situation in Afghanistan, but they can see your pained reaction to the news. They can sense when the adults are communicating poorly — even if there’s no raised voices or big fights. Given this, you need to talk to your kids about your anxieties, to find that line where you acknowledge your stress, but don’t entirely freak them out. The anxious truth will out — so it’s best if it comes directly from you. 


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The Right Way to Talk to Kids During Stressful Times


Psychologist have engineered a dialogue to provide parents with insight into how their kids are handling emotional turmoil.

 
 
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How to Not Transfer Your Anxiety to a Child
The way children see parents cope with their own fears and anxieties — and how parents talk to kids about them — can have a huge impact on how they deal with their own fears throughout childhood, for better or worse. Here are four rules to keep in mind.
 

1. Don’t mask or hide your fears. Kids will pick up on them anyway. Instead, display confidence when talking about what scares you.

2. Listen to their worries. Help children externalize their fears.

3. Model coping behaviors for your children. Show them that some anxiety is normal and that there are ways of overcoming it.

4. Allow your child to experience fear and worry. Help her develop tools to deal with them.

 
For a more detailed look at this process, read the entire story here.


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Remote Control Car by Brio


Brio makes excellent toys. Hard stop. Here you have a perfect little remote-control car that not only teaches toddlers about cause-and-effect but also helps them develop fine motor skills. It’s great, plain and simple.

 
 
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The Little Thing That Keeps My Marriage Happy


A dozen men talk about the small rituals and silly habits that help keep their relationships in a good place.

 
 
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TIPS AND TRICKS


33 Ways to Truly Build Trust in Your Marriage

 
  1. Align your words and actions
    In any relationship, trust will grow when your words consistently match your actions. On the flip side, if you do one thing and say another, you’ll form a breach. Being aware of your actions and correcting them when your actions differ from your words can allow trust to form. Focus on doing what you’ll say you do and keeping your promises. “If you say you’re the most important person in the world to me yet consistently prioritize work and friends and time at the gym over your time with your partner, the disconnect between your words and your actions can seriously damage trust in the relationship,” says Amber Trueblood, a California-based marriage and family therapist.

  2. Show respect
    Respect, which can be conveyed in the tone of your words, the time you spend together, and the support you show for your partner’s feelings and interests, is another core component of building trust in a relationship. If you feel like your partner is struggling to trust you, rebuild it by showing you’re listening and prioritizing an emotional connection rather than being right – even if you don’t necessarily agree with your partner’s take. “Listening and seeking to understand rather than question your partner’s perceptions can truly help restore trust in a relationship,” says Trueblood.

  3. Compromise your values
    According to marriage therapist Saba Lurie, it can be difficult to trust your partner when you feel your values are at odds. If your top priority is fun, but your partner values safety, your partner might (understandably) struggle to cede territory to you. If this is the case, put everything on the table and talk it out. Name what your core values are and come up with ways to honor both. For example, brainstorm ways to have fun without making your partner feel like you don’t care about safety, and vice versa.
 

Here are some more ways to truly build trust in a relationship.

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The New Rules of COVID Testing for Kids and Parents


With Delta on the loose and vaccinations slowing, the rules of COVID testing have changed. Here's the new guide to testing for parents.

 
 
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I would feel very uncomfortable sending my child to school without knowing that everyone was masked, and without knowing that all teachers were vaccinated.
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