3 Habits of Parents Who Have Great Sex
Husbands and wives who remember these things have a long and healthy sex life.
1. They Manage Their Expectations
Life changes when you have kids. Priorities shift. Schedules fill up. Time is a luxury. One of the best ways to lean into this skid is to simply accept that the only constant will likely be inconsistency. Every couple we’ve spoken to about post-kid relationship maintenance stresses this again and again: both partners need to be patient and accept that parenthood will change their dynamic. An understanding of this is essential to making sure that happiness remains in and out of the bedroom.
2. They Sexualize One Another Every Single Day
It can be easy to see your partner as, well, just a partner. Sure, you split duties (right?) and support one another. But it can easily turn into a working relationship. The way to defeat that funk is simple: sexualize one another every day. Flirt. Be affectionate. Write romantic notes. Hold hands. Squeeze some tush. This may lead to sex but the goal is to remember that you’re into each other.
3. They Put it on the Calendar
Skeptics will say scheduling sex puts undue pressure on individuals to perform, that it turns intimacy into a chore and so on and so forth. But sex is not an obligation. And those who choose to organize their sex schedule do so because they like sex, and they want to keep having it. And the arrangement carries certain perks spontaneous sex does not — namely anticipation. Couples can also use it as an opportunity to connect and even try new things.
Here are a few more habits to keep in mind.
It’s common for couples to experience misaligned sex drives. But it isn’t an issue to ignore. These tips can help you better understand the situation.
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The Best Advice My Dad Ever Gave Me
We asked a variety of men and women to share the Fatherly advice that they cherish.
1. “You Are the Average of Your Five Closest Friends”
“I was in high school and had a close group of friends. Most of my friends were good kids, but others took different routes as time went on. When my dad and I were chatting, he told me ‘You are the average of your five or so closest friends. If you have someone who weighs you down, they weigh down the group, like an anchor. So if you choose the right friend group — one that challenges you and makes good decisions — you shouldn’t have those problems.’ Since then, I have not only been picky about who I decide to spend my time with but also who I’ve let go over the years.” — Dan, 26, Illinois
2. Work Smarter, Not Harder
“My dad always told us this. ‘Don’t waste your time working 70 hours a week at a job just to pay your bills; find something that allows you to put in less hours and still make the same amount.’ I applied this to my job as a Business Analyst when I started working. Why not automate something that was tedious to do? It’s called productive laziness and it’s a valuable trait in an employee.” — Shelly, 39, Michigan
3. Never Ask Someone to Do Something You Wouldn’t Do Yourself.
“My dad said this all the time. He worked in every department of the company during his career, so he knew why and how each group was important to the overall success of the organization. I think his experience and strong moral compass gave him a lot of credibility throughout the company. His colleagues didn’t have to wonder where he stood on issues — he was consistent in doing the right thing for the right reasons.” — Paige, 53, Massachusetts
Here are more words of wisdom from fathers far and wide.
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Kevin Hart’s New Chapter Book For Kids Is Hilarious
Kevin Hart is one of the funniest dads ever. But, he’s now one of the funniest writers of children’s chapter books. Check out this ridiculously clever excerpt from Marcus Makes a Movie, which yes, is about a kid making a movie.
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Don’t sleep on Raya and the Last Dragon
You've heard a lot about Raya and the Last Dragon, but as one mom recently pointed out, this movie is pretty much this generation’s Last Unicorn. But, here’s the catch, Raya is better because it’s not super depressing. It’s also finally on regular Disney+.
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The best Dungeons & Dragons podcasts for dads
Did you get back into some D&D during the pandemic? Are you a Zoom lord Dungeon Master? Well, you’re not alone. Here are the very best Dungeons & Dragons podcasts for nerdy dads.
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