Making the decision to divorce after you've had children requires much more thought and self-reflection than the decision to get married probably ever did. Unlike marriage, the repercussions aren’t immediately clear. Yes, there is plenty of research that says divorce can be harmful to children. But there’s also evidence that commitment to co-parenting can offset future problems for the kids. There’s evidence suggesting staying together for a child may not be helpful when the relationships are strained, volatile, or violent; and there’s evidence that staying together is better than splitting even if tension remains. So, if you're wrestling with it, how do you make the decision? Here's what to consider.