The everyday, ongoing stress of taking care of kids while, you know, attempting to function as an adult, can make even the most emotionally healthy person turn molehills into mountains. In other words, it's easy to get into the habit of taking things personally. But when you place the responsibility on yourself, you project the adverse event onto your identity – which causes you to, among other things, get defensive. Here's how to stay in perspective — and how to train yourself to not take things so personally.