Any couple who says they’ve never had a fight about chores or who-does-how-much-of-what around the home needs to change out of their pants immediately. Because they are on fire. All couples argue about it because of course they do. The division of household labor is a hot button issue in so many marriages because the arguments are not just about who-does-what but about everything from gender expectations to general issues of respect. Experts agree that having regular conversations about how, exactly, you plan on splitting work is crucial. This doesn’t mean that every couple needs to have a true 50-50 split (this is, frankly, impossible to achieve). It does mean, however, that couples need to come to an agreement about what will work for them and have a regular dialogue to keep that agreement in check. Here’s how that conversation should work.