Children can be pretty compassionate creatures. For instance, research out of the Yale Baby Lab shows that kids younger than 2 years old show greater satisfaction when giving treats to others than when receiving treats for themselves. If children are hardwired for kindness, then parents who want to raise nice kids are off to a good start. But still, if you care about raising kids who support others, enjoy giving, and choose kindness — and who doesn’t? — it’s important to model that behavior yourself and give explicit lessons on why being kind is a choice (hint: yelling “be nice!”, while understandable, doesn’t cut it.) So we compiled some expert advice on the subject to help you nail the basics. Consider the below your primer for raising kids who give a damn.