The Sunshine Report Finding Your Voice Karen and Jay share thoughts on the importance of having the courage to speak your mind In today’s increasingly divisive world, there is immense pressure to conform – to stay silent and acquiesce to the views of others. Even in those moments when you know that the views being expressed go directly against your core values. There is a fear of being ostracized by the group, criticized for your beliefs or even worse. Yet, it is precisely in these moments that we need to summon up the courage to share our views – certainly in a civil, respectful, and positive manner, because in a real sense, we have an obligation to do this. For if we do not, the discussion and the others in the group will be deprived of the value of our thoughts. And, even more so, our silence makes us suffer the internal discomfort of tacitly giving our approval to views with which we disagree. By contrast, there is a validation and an exciting feeling of positive energy when we have the courage to speak our mind. It has been said that the opposite of courage in our society today is not cowardice. It’s conformity. For instance, have you ever had a moment where you’ve wanted to share your opinion, but might fear the reaction? It’s tough these days to share our thoughts, opinions, and beliefs openly and honestly, especially if they may be unpopular or controversial. But there’s something to be said about being true to yourself and your values and not being afraid to stand up for what you believe in. Yes, speaking your mind can sometimes lead to criticism or conflict with others, but it also allows for open and honest communication, which is essential not only for personal growth and positive relationships but also for social progress. When we speak our mind, we both empower ourselves and others to engage in meaningful discussions and take actions that align with our values and beliefs. Not to mention, free thought and open dialogue are the basis of a free society and American democracy. As the saying goes, “I may not agree with what you say, but I will defend your right to say it.” Speaking your mind comes in many forms though. If you are in a position to provide feedback to someone, speaking your mind can mean expressing your thoughts honestly and constructively in a helpful manner. It can also mean advocating a cause near and dear. If you feel passionately about a particular issue, speaking your mind means using your voice to advocate for change. Speaking your mind also helps broaden perspective. For example, if you're discussing politics with a friend or family, you might speak your mind by sharing your thoughts on a particular issue, while also listening to and considering their perspective. While you may not agree, there’s always an opportunity to learn in some capacity.  The next time you find yourself in fundamental disagreement with the way a conversation or discussion is headed, please speak up. Share your thoughts. Be thoughtful and reasoned in your approach. But don’t be afraid to do so. You will be making a major contribution to others and meanwhile, bolstering your own sense of purpose, identity, and integrity! Give it a try. It may take some practice, but I guarantee you will find satisfaction in your efforts. Read The Report New England Town Meeting – True Opportunity to Speak Your Mind Read More Granite State Citizens – Speaking Our Minds, Impacting the Nation Read More Positive Profile of the Week: Chris Thompson This week we are delighted to highlight a leader in our state who definitely and consistently demonstrates the courage to speak his own mind - Chris Thompson. I first met Chris a few years back at our mutual friend’s annual charity event. The following morning, I opened up my copy of the New Hampshire Union Leader and saw a column entitled “Closing the Deal,” by Chris Thompson. I was impressed by his writing and loved his outlook and expressive nature. It wasn’t just about best practices in business, but it was the approach that he took. Courage combined with civility. I also did some research on a number of his earlier columns and found the same thing. This Queen City native and Central High graduate has a deep commitment to the Granite State, and you see it in his weekly writings – sharing insight, but never afraid to share his point of view. During the pandemic he cautioned his fellow writers not to conform to consensus simply for the sake of conformity, but rather try and keep a sense of skepticism in a very uncertain time. He raised questions about the massive government spending and reminded people that down the road we would have to pay for it. Today, we have record inflation along with many people not wanting to go back to work. Agree with him or not, he was not afraid to share his thinking, especially when his views may not have been part of the mainstream narrative. Another article that caught my attention was his calling out local stakeholders regarding the homeless crisis facing Manchester. Chris wasn’t afraid to speak his mind and as a father, he advocated for action not words – concerned that children deserved the opportunity to enjoy the great spaces of Manchester – while also helping those who want to get off the streets and get the care they need. But Chris just doesn’t simply take controversial positions, he is also a big-hearted individual. He uses his column to showcase some of the businesses and organizations making a difference in our communities. He serves on the boards of Make-A-Wish and the Elliot Perry Foundation. At an event or just out and about, you’ll enjoy a good laugh with Chris for he is friendly, funny, and fueled with a commitment to speak up and recognize those in need.  Chris goes against the grain when necessary and speaks up when others won’t. I encourage you to check out his weekly column in the Union Leader. Quote of the Week "Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter." - Martin Luther King Jr.     Jay Lucas | www.JayLucas.us  Share This Email Share This Email Share This Email Jay Lucas | 7 Portwalk Pl, Portsmouth, NH 03801 Unsubscribe [email protected] Update Profile | Constant Contact Data Notice Sent by [email protected]